My Bipolar Journal – Episode 199
April 21, 2008
So, show of hands here. Who thinks sex is the highest form of love?
Yeah, that’s what I thought. Personally, I think forgiveness and acceptance are the highest forms of love. I mean, of course there comes a point where it’s unhealthy for you to be around and you have to make things stop whether it’s what you really want or not, however, really accepting someone and forgiving someone at all costs? That’s something that’s truly amazing. Being willing to die for someone, now that’s love.
So why does everyone only fight for sex? You’re girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancée/partner/husband/wife has sex with someone else and you want to fight the person who basically had nothing much to do with it in the first place. You don’t want to fight the person who dedicated their life to you, you decide that picking on the person who did it with them is more important. Well, you know what? That person’s beliefs might not be the same as yours. They might not believe that monogamy means anything.
Many a person has said, “Well, I don’t feel like he/she respected me.” Who cares? Probably not. Most likely they don’t know you and even if they do they may not hold the same beliefs you do. It’s like beating up someone for simply being a Democrat or Christian or Vegan.
Morality is a belief not a proven fact. Not by any stretch. Now, of course, you will find fewer people who state that something such as murder is less of a moral belief rather than a fact, but that’s because it affects the actual life of a person that someone else is deciding should be there or not. Really, it should be up to that person or time. However, maybe there’s someone with an argument out there that’s believable. Sex doesn’t end much of anything. Maybe a relationship, but that’s because of what people have told us is right or wrong. We still go on, maybe hurting a lot, but most don’t let it destroy them completely.
Why should I respect someone for having a “significant other”? That’s not the way I’ve chosen to live my life. Did you forget about the person who actually promised you something? It wasn’t me.
1 comment:
I felt compelled to respond. I hope you don't mind me sharing my view on the subject.
My husband grew up in a very conservative environment. He believes that monogamy is the highest form of love.
To me monogamy is unrealistic. I'm much more open-minded when it comes to life and love. As human beings, it's natural for us to be attracted to people other than our spouses. Monogamy isn't really natural, in my opinion.
If my husband was attracted to another woman and slept with her, I would be fine with that as long as he didn't lie about it, get her pregnant, or bring some disease home. I could easily forgive him for sleeping with someone else because he's human.
Sex isn't as important as real intimacy. Intimacy encompasses truth, acceptance, etc. Sex is just sex.
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